Maybe you dream of raising your rating 100-200 points…achieving a rating of 2000…winning a Club or National Championship. I have done each of these things, when a year or two before it seemed unlikely.
There are endless chess books, websites, and coaching options available to players who want to get better. All of these tools can be helpful if utilized well, but one factor is more important than any other in determining how far a player will go in their chess endeavors: dealing with losses.
You’re going to make mistakes, blunder, and lose games you shouldn’t. You will also have bad tournaments — possibly streaks of bad tournaments — and sometimes feel like your efforts at progress are going nowhere.
Have thoughts like this ever crossed your mind? They have for me, many times over the years!
Somtimes you can push these thoughts away, and sometimes they have a stronger pull, causing you to “take a break” from chess.
To keep moving forward, accept all results as simply feedback and don’t get so personally attached to it. Much easier said than done! And, admittedly, something I have never been able to do for even a full year at a time.
I reached my highest-ever rating in October 2016, at 2137. The dream of becoming a National Master after 20+ years seemed so close! Two great tournaments, three good tournaments, or four above-average tournaments might bring me to 2200.
Then I made a big mistake. Several mistakes, actually:
- I did not recognize that my rating gains were partially luck and not the result of great play on my part. Winning from worse or losing positions, opponents walking into my opening preparation, timely draw offers accepted when my opponents should not have done so…
- I forced myself to play events when I did not feel 100% prepared.
- I decided to change my style and hired a coach to help me play in this alien style.
- I put more pressure on myself as my rating slid further away from 2200 with each passing event.
- I became demoralized and “pulled the plug” four tournaments later in June 2017 when my rating sank to 2075.
- I have not played a tournament since!
I mean, I know better. When you lose your objectivity, you can lose everything.
Funnily enough, I was planning to play again in April 2020 alongside one of my students. Best laid plans…
I have been working on my game at a slow pace, and should be ready to compete again when COVID-19 becomes less of a threat.
My advice to you (and to myself):
I mean, I’m not providing earth-shattering advice here. Most experienced players know what to do…the question is, will you do it?